There are a lot of things that get in the way of talking about sex. For starters, we live in a pretty sex-negative culture. Yes, compared to the past, we are more sexually free. Yes, sex is everywhere: on billboards, TV, movies, magazines, porn sites, and all over the internet, really! But it is SO RARE to see actual conversations about sex. We don’t learn it in sex education and parents rarely think to talk to kids about how to communicate about good sex.

We all have preferences when it comes to sex. There are things that turn us on and there are also things that we might find gross, appalling, or repulsive. We all pass judgment on other people’s behaviour, whether we intend to or not. Judging is just having an opinion about something. It’s part of being human. And, let’s be honest, it’s sometimes very satisfying to judge others.